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Nicole, 41 from Allen'S Nek, Gauteng

Intelligent, Feminine, Sensual, Sexy, Independent, cheeky, very honest and expect nothing less from a man. I enjoy masculine, adventurous and confident men. Only contact me, if you are very single, I don't do extra marital, nor side line. Please my preference is English speaking and Caucasian gents, who do have some intelligence, humour and know how to treat a woman in every sense of the word.

Nadine, 38 from Pretoria, Gauteng

Wow so many options.... Thinking of setting up a questionnaire.....you know to speed things up.... Just kidding guys.... But not joking about all the options. Thank you for reading my profile. Looking for mutual respect with a flair of NSA on the side. Talking and sharing stories and fantasies and being treated like a woman, not just a sexual object... yes this site calls for raw sex but lets do it with sensual passionate intentions... mind blowing is always better than wham bam thank mam *wink* Please guys, if you dont feel confidant to put a picture on your profile or to fill in your thingies so that I can read and see a bit then please move along as I like confidant men. xoxo

Cleo, 41 from Johannesburg, Gauteng

We all know what we are looking for, so not to waste either your or my time here are some guidelines: Men ages 39 - 55 I will not reply to messages with no profile picture, Only Caucasian men please, also taller than 1,78m....oh if you have a 6-pack, that scores extra points,......... About me: I am looking for discreet relationship, not one night stands. A man who knows how to treat a woman and appreciates a woman. Important thing to me is hygiene, I look after my body and expect the same from my partner. I enjoy the whole part of foreplay, but seduction is an art. I like to be in control at times, but need a partner who knows when to take control back,.... I can be impulsive and spontaneous, and also enjoy long slow hot sessions.

Lianne, 45 from Sandton, Gauteng

Play with me! Definitely a good idea!

Eunice, 55 from Johannesburg, Gauteng

I am God fearing woman I am not perfect woman but who is striving to perfection, i believe in trust, honesty , good communication, respect, compliment ,forgiveness and many more. I believe that in the thins I have mentioned starts with me for example I I don't respect myself how do I respect someone.so these I some of my values if you fear God that will make you respect other human being ,I am looking for a right partner who believes in the same values i am not here to play games if you are God's send please drop me any email and we can start chatting

Meruza, 38 from Pietersburg, Limpopo

I a single lady at my late forties I' love , outdoor Life and outgoing, I want to get laid so hard by a guy who can make me cum many times and squirt if possible

Shazz, 24 from Mamelodi, Gauteng

I won't say looking but wondering about a mature(not old) man with a sensitive mind and down to earth, looking for an affair of essence and true friendship. Who values respect and know how to treat a woman... did I mention grounded? yeah I think that's it, does he exists?

Nhlanhla, 24 from Durban, Kwazulu-Natal

Nhlanhla has yet to add his profile. Ask Nhlanhla for more info.

Doreen, 56 from Johannesburg, Gauteng

Independent, self sufficient and have no need to be validated by a man. I know what I do or don't want from life. It is all about "Chemistry" so do not be presumptuous and assume that because I am on this site that I am easy. I am here to chat and have a few laughs, if it leads anywhere I will consider it a bonus. To sum up the above - No promises, no demands and no expectations = no disappointments I am NOT here to exchange naughty pics.

Soso, 32 from East London, Eastern Cape

Hi there boys,Im matured,good looking and very naughty. So if you know u'r story then talk to me....oh I prefer swinging & 3some's...so you best have your woman coz I will be with my man.

Brucelay, 24 from Ethekwini, Kwazulu Natal

I would tie your hands up and take control..yea

Nsadiscreet, 52 from Sandton, Gauteng

Hi, Are you looking for an clean, disease free, intelligent confident competent lover? No Strings? Nothing complicated? Encounters in a classy hotel with clean white sheets and fluffy towels? Me too. I'm Married but seeking the frisson of a discreet liasion with an articulate and educated WHITE woman. Do you have a photo on your profile? Nothing threatening to your anonymity - be imaginative; tease me a little? Fit, active, healthy, I am 5'10", normal to trim build, sporty with short hair. I'm told that I look much younger than my age. I have a high sex drive. I am not a beer bellied, tattooed, vulgar penis pic displayer. With me you have a well proportioned energetic man, polite in public but in private, well - perhaps you'll find out :-) This is about satisfying our mutaul needs. Discretion is absolutely assured and absolutely required. The thrills and excitement of great sex should be preceded by a mental connection. I'm looking for fun - lots of it - but I'm NOT looking to meet someone who has slept with every man on this site. Why not send me a message now? I would love to hear from you. Thanks for reading this far. NON SMOKERS ONLY PLEASE. Please would you upload a photo and complete your own profile before or soon after sending any message? No pic - no response. Thanks.

Marietjie, 44 from Ethekwini, Kwazulu Natal

I would like to think of myself as a classy lady, yet I am a T-shirt and jeans kind of girl. I have a good self image, and I think that I am not too bad looking for my age. Sexy, good looking younger men gets me hot. The wildest thing that I've ever done is having sex with my husband on the balcony of our holiday flat.

Tinks, 51 from Kempton Park, Gauteng

Hi there, I'm NOT here to have fun fun, but a more meaningful relationship, ALTHOUGH not asking to get married, once is enough!!!!!!!! Now it can be perceived as 2 meanings so u decide which would suit you. My choice of man is WHITE, Its my choice so DON'T question it, RATHER respect it. The world might be a changing ----but what I want and like, the WORLD cannot change. We live in a world where something or the other is wrong in our present life, some lacking at home that has lead us down this path to seek that fulfillment from you, THE STRANGER, to fill that void. This does NOT mean I'M DESPERATE, but know that the ultimate end result will be with the ONE that chemistry RADIATES. If u don't get a response from me, THEN know u have an incomplete profile and I'm NOT interested. DON'T send me those PATHETIC auto messages PLEASE , JUST DON'T BOTHER THEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I play ALONE, meaning alone, if you want to know what my hubby thinks, I suggest you ask him directly. PLEASE I'm NOT into Blacks................RESPECT MY CHOICES!!!!!!! PLEASE NO UNDER 40'S

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