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Are you searching for sex near you? My Bed or Yours is the number one local sex finder service for busy singles and couples seeking no-strings encounters with members in your city.

Your personal sex finder

If you're ready to start meeting horny singles in your city with one thing on their mind, this comprehensive guide is your ticket to getting started with My Bed or Yours, from choosing the perfect profile picture to crafting a stand-out bio that captures the attention of your potential matches. Get ready to experience sex on tap, as we unlock the secrets to creating an irresistible profile that will supercharge your sex life. 

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First, create your free My Bed or Yours account. Simply click on the secure form above, answer a few simple questions and click the confirmation link in your email. 

Once you have confirmed your email, we will ask you some basic questions about you and your interests. These are so we can provide the best possible matches for your specific needs and ensure you appear in as many searches as possible. Failure to complete these questions may mean you miss opportunities to meet new members in your area. We will ask for your location, this is so we can match you with local members looking for sex when you are, we never reveal your exact location so you can be assured your privacy is maintained.

Profile photos

Free accounts come with the option to upload one profile photo. We strongly recommend you take advantage of this. Members without a photo receive much less interest or responses than members who have a photo. We understand you may be weary of adding a photo to a site like ours, many members chose to crop out some identifiable features for privacy or take body shots instead. Whatever makes you feel comfortable. Ensure whatever photo you choose is actually you, recent and good quality to avoid confusion and missed opportunities.

Your Bio

This is your chance to captivate visitors to your profile, make it stand out. If you haven't taken the time to write anything interesting, you will miss potential connections.  The best approach is to attract attention with a captivating headline. Something flirty, cheeky or a bit naughty works well. Then, write a brief paragraph about yourself, what you like/dislike, your interests and why you are here. Keep it short and concise, no one wants to read your life story.

Optional information

As you create your profile, we will guide you through some additional questions and options. We recommend you complete as much as possible so our matching algorithms can provide the best potential matches for you as well as to ensure you appear in as many searches as possible. These include things such as sexual interests and sexual positions, experiences and sexual orientation.

Making contact

Finally, the most important but most nerve-wracking part for most members - Contacting other members. Get this right and a world of exciting sexual encounters awaits.

The most common mistake is to be too bold. Yes, this site is a little different to most dating sites, many users are open to more sexualised approaches. Lots prefer to get straight to business without the toing and froing of small talk but it pays to be polite and respectful. Approaches like 'Hey, fancy a fuck' or 'Are you looking for sex' are generally a bad opener and will often get you blocked or ignored. Instead, start with a friendly opener.

A simple "Hey, how's your day going?" can work wonders. But standing out requires creativity. Mention something interesting from their profile – a shared interest, a unique hobby, or an interesting tattoo. This shows you've paid attention and are genuinely interested before moving on to something more flirtatious

Light teasing can add a fun dynamic to the conversation. Playfully challenge their opinions on something lighthearted or gently poke fun at their taste in movies or music. Remember, the goal is to make them smile, not offend.

Compliments that go beyond looks are the real winners. Acknowledge their intelligence, wit, or the way they express themselves. Specific compliments show you're paying attention and genuinely interested in their personality as well as their body.

Once you've established a good rapport, feel free to escalate the conversation. You can drop subtle hints about meeting in person or video chat or share a funny story about a sexual encounter gone wrong to show your openness to real-world interactions.

Not everyone will respond in the same way, and that's okay. If someone isn't reciprocating your interest, gracefully move on. Always prioritize mutual respect and consent. Remember, flirting should be enjoyable for both parties. Be yourself, stay respectful and stay safe.


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Every time you log in to My Bed or Yours, we provide you with personalised matches and new members who may interest you, making it even easier to meet and fuck in your area.

Members who know what they want

Unlike trying to pick up girls in bars or mainstream dating apps, My Bed or Yours is dedicated to connecting users for no-strings hookups and local fun, so you know that our members are more than open to a quick fling, casual meets or a one-night-stand. Armed with this knowledge, you can feel confident most members are looking for a similar experience to you.

Personalise your experience

With our customisable search filters, you can define the kind of person you are looking for, how far from your location you are willing to travel and the types of bedroom activities you are interested in, creating a personalised list of recommendations every time you log in as well as only appearing in the most relevant search results, giving you a much faster, more successful experience.

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If you want to elevate your sex life to another level, try the leading site for local sex contacts today with our free trial account and claim your free photo profile today.