My Bed or Yours – The #1 Local Sex Site

Welcome to My Bed or Yours, your go-to platform for casual, no-strings-attached encounters and local hookups.

Please Note: This site is intended for users aged 18 and over. If you are easily shocked, or looking for a long-term relationship, this might not be the right place for you. However, if you're here for genuine, adult interactions and no-strings sex near you, you are definitely in the right place.

Explore our platform

• Activity Feed - filled with photos, videos, and text posts from members we think you’ll love
• Personalized Matches - browse through a list of members tailored to your unique preferences
• Private Group Chats - Take the conversation somewhere more discreet
• Public Group Chats - Connect with your wider community and discuss different interests
• Themed Chats - Explore themes like BDSM, swinging, bondage, and voyeurism with our dedicated group channels
• Search Function - Find other profiles and photos by location, distance, who’s online, and more
• Magazine - Regular articles to learn more about the lifestyle
• Prompts and Competitions to engage with your kinky community and win prizes
• Safety Information distributed throughout the site
• Help & Support from our 24/7 customer support team

About Us

For over 12 years, My Bed or Yours has been connecting thousands of members, providing a safe and secure space for adults to explore their sexual interests. Our platform caters to busy professionals, newly single individuals, and couples seeking discreet encounters. Whether you're young, old, kinky, or vanilla, you'll find a diverse and genuine community of like-minded members ready to connect quickly and conveniently. Our goal remains simple: to offer a trusted environment where you can meet others who share your interests and desires.

Open and Transparent

Unlike many other sites, My Bed or Yours is completely free to join, with no need to enter credit card details just to validate your account. Our membership tiers are transparent and straightforward. Below you will find details on what you can expect from a free account vs a paid account.

Free Members

Enjoy full access to search, view profiles, and create a photo profile. You can join public chats, share updates, and send or receive limited private messages during certain times - all without charge.

Paid Membership (VIP Members)

Upgrade for improved profile visibility, multiple photos, private groups, and unlimited messaging. Our affordable fees support the quality of your experience, with flexible payment options available.

Rebills

Active memberships will automatically re-bill at the end of the subscription period unless canceled by the user. My Bed or Yours will not appear on your bill.

Terms

The terms of service for My Bed or Yours require users to be 18 or older and outline user responsibilities, content ownership, and privacy. Users must avoid sharing illegal content and maintain respectful communication. The platform isn’t liable for interactions between users and reserves the right to suspend or terminate accounts for violations. The terms may be updated periodically, and users agree to these updates by continuing to use the service. You can read the full terms and conditions here.

My Bed or Yours does not conduct background checks on members.

Privacy

The privacy policy for My Bed or Yours explains how the platform collects, uses, and protects user data. It covers the types of personal information collected, such as email addresses and location data, and how this information is used to improve services and ensure safety. The policy also outlines data sharing practices, user rights regarding their data, and the platform’s commitment to security. Users are informed of their ability to update or delete their information and are encouraged to review the policy regularly for any changes. Please review the privacy policy here.

Personal Information

My Bed or Yours does not share, sell, or display your personal information. We prioritize your privacy and ensure that your data remains confidential. We also strongly encourage you not to post personal details, such as your name, contact information, or address, in public areas of the site to maintain your privacy and security. Your safety and trust are our top priorities, and we are committed to protecting your information while you use our platform.

Fake/Fraudulent Profiles

We take your safety seriously, which is why we have a dedicated moderation team and state-of-the-art fraud detection software. Our zero-tolerance policy towards scammers and time-wasters ensures a secure environment for all users. If you come across any suspicious profiles or activity, please report them to our support team immediately.

How to Spot a Scammer

Here are some tips to help you identify potential scammers:

• Too-Perfect Profile Photos: Be cautious of profiles filled with professionally lit, high-quality photos of very attractive individuals. These images may be stolen from a model or influencer’s website or social media. While many members take pride in their photos, a profile lacking natural or candid shots should raise a red flag.
• Incomplete Profiles: Profiles without photos or with very limited information could indicate a potential fraudster—or at the very least, someone not serious about genuine connections.
• Financial Talk: Be wary of anyone who brings up personal finance or money problems. Scammers often start with a sob story and then progress to asking for money once they’ve gained your trust.
• Requests for Payment or Off-Site Chatting: If someone demands payment for sexual interactions or pushes you to move the conversation to another platform, consider this a major red flag.

Tips for Identifying Genuine Users

• Active Engagement: Genuine users often participate in community activities, such as joining chats, commenting on profile updates, or leaving guestbook messages.
• Thoughtful Bios: Look for members who have taken the time to craft a thoughtful and detailed bio.
• VIP Members: Users who subscribe to our VIP service are less likely to be scammers or time-wasters.
• Verified Members and Photos: Take advantage of our free verification service. Verified accounts and photos add an extra layer of trustworthiness.

Find Local Sex Wherever You Go

Our sex finder app allows you to experience all our great features on any mobile device without having to download any additional software or annoying apps. Just visit mybedoryours.com on any device and log in to your account to see it in action. No matter where you are, any time of the day or night, you can now find and connect with local girls whenever you are feeling horny. See who's online when you are, view their location, and chat securely. My Bed or Yours is your ticket to local hookups on the go.

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Get Started

Getting started with My Bed or Yours is quick and simple. To create your profile, click here to access our secure sign-up page. Choose your gender and the gender(s) you're interested in, and our automated profile builder will guide you through the process.

To increase your visibility in search results and member suggestions, try to fill out as much information as possible about yourself and your ideal match. If you're unsure about what to include, don’t worry - you can always update your profile later by selecting ‘Edit Profile’ at the top right of the page when you're logged in.

Find Casual Encounters and Local Sex Dates

Our ever-increasing database of genuine members, helpful support, and expert advice make My Bed or Yours the number one destination for online pleasure seekers. Whether you want to meet and fuck South African women, find a fuck buddy in New Zealand, or are looking for casual sex in the UK, you are bound to find members nearby looking for the same experiences as you. There really is no better place to start your search for local sex than with My Bed or Yours.

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Our recently launched blog features all kinds of interesting content you won’t find anywhere else. From the fun and bizarre to sexual health and advice on spicing up your sex life from our industry experts and contributors.

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FAQ’s

• Profile
• Group Chats
• Safety
• Site Features
• VIP Members

Some of our most frequently asked questions

Profile

How can I see the messages that I've sent to other members?

Head over to the 'Chats' tab in your Messages area to see all your conversations. Each chat displayed here will show whether the last message was 'Sent' or 'Received'. You can view the full history of messages exchanged between you and another member by opening up any individual chat listed.

How do I make an image my main profile photo?

Your image must first be categorized as a suitable profile picture by our moderation team during their moderation checks. Visit the Edit Profile tab on the Profile page, click the Change Photo button, select the image you would like from under the Profile Media headline – all media categorized as a suitable profile picture by our moderation team will show in here. Click the Set As Main Image button to save your changes.

Why can't I read messages in my inbox?

You will be able to read messages sent by VIP members; however, to read messages sent by other members you will need to upgrade to VIP yourself.

Can I put my contact details on my profile?

For safety reasons, contact details can only be shared privately, and it is a breach of site rules to post in public areas of the site. Should you include contact details in your profile/content, it will either be removed or edited out by our moderation team.

Group Chats Feature

What is the Group Chats feature?

The Group Chats feature allows multiple users to message each other at the same time, rather than one-to-one messages.

Where can I find my Group Chats?

You can find your Group Chats in the main navigation. Simply open the navigation menu and click 'Group Chats' and you will be sent directly to your Group Chats. Alternatively, you can find your Group Chats in the Messages area by clicking on the filter icon and selecting 'Group Chats'.

Who can create a Group Chat?

Only VIP members can create Group Chats.

Can Classic members be part of Group Chat?

Yes, Classic members can be included in private Group Chat by invitation from VIP members. Classic members will be able to contribute to the Group Chat, but they won't be able to view messages from other Classic members.

Site Safety

Why do I need to become age verified to upload adult photos/videos?

To upload adult photos/videos, we require members to verify they're a minimum age of 18 years old. This is to protect our members and maintain a safe, enjoyable environment for all.

How do I become age verified?

When you upload a photo/video that is classified as adult, you will receive email correspondence from us which requests identification and prompts you to upload ID. Your item will not be published to your profile until your ID has been accepted.

Will you ever ask for my personal details?

Personal details will only be required throughout your time as a member in a limited set of circumstances. The only occurrence where your bank/card details would be needed is when upgrading to VIP membership via our payment page. VIP membership is optional.

Why do I have to wait for my content to be moderated?

Any content uploaded to the site will first be manually moderated and categorized by our moderation team to ensure it complies with our site rules.

Using the Site Features

How can I see messages that I have sent out?

Visit the Messages tab and click on the user you have tried to contact. Here you can see the full conversation between you, including messages sent by you to other members.

Why can't I read messages in my inbox?

You will be able to read messages sent by VIP members. However, to read messages sent by other members, you will need to upgrade to VIP yourself.

How do I add people to my likes?

This can be done in the following ways: When visiting a user's profile, you can add them to your likes by pressing the 'Like' button. On the Matches page, a user can be added to your Likes by clicking the loveheart icon next to their photo.

How do I delete a photo?

Visit the Photos section of your profile page, click the Change photo button, and select the pictures you want to remove.

How do I make my photos private/public?

Visit the Videos and Photos section of your profile page and select the picture you would like to make private or public, then select or unselect the Private button depending on your choice.

How do I share my private media?

In the Messages page, when inside the conversation with another user, click the Plus icon, select Upload photo from Gallery, select your photo to send.

How do I upload media?

Click the Add Photos button on your profile and select whether you'd like to upload a picture from the images you've uploaded to the site or take a picture with your camera. Then select your picture or take one and hit the Update button.

VIP Membership

Does my membership automatically renew?

Your membership will renew based on the package you selected. For details of your membership package, rebill dates, etc., please go to your Membership page.

What can I do as a free member?

As a free member of the site, your message and photo upload options are restricted, but you can browse the site and view members.

How do I upgrade my account?

Please visit your membership page for details of prices, packages, and payment methods in your area.

I pay via SMS, how do I cancel?

To stop billing from a mobile phone provider, please text STOP to 89595.

Why does my card keep being declined?

Due to the nature of our site, transactions can be subject to enhanced scrutiny and providers may decline the card for a number of reasons. Please contact them for assistance and ask them to approve the transaction. This works in many cases.