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Teaching BDSM is my passion. I teach more than safe & skillful BDSM. I teach my own program of domination skills and craft, that draws on my experience as both a dominatrix and psychotherapst. Welcoming new people to BDSM, coaching couples to realize their fantasies, assisting professional dominatrices in taking their career to the next level, and helping individuals gain the confidence to manifest amazing BDSM experiences, is what I love about educating. When it comes to play partners, I seek fellow deviants who are respectful, self-aware, and eager to expand their sense of self through submission. With 10+ years of professional experience in the field, I’ll gladly act as your kinky sherpa, leading you into the dizzying depths of Female Domination. I shine in the role of the puppet master and My personal fetish is pushing the boundaries of whomever I’m playing with, so I dare you to tell Me your deepest darkest secrets.
Bisexual
Looking for, ages 18-80.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Age play, BDSM, Cuckold, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Toys

A discreet lady willing to have fun, hopefully I am able to find some here
Straight
Looking for, ages 21-41.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Age play, BDSM, Cuckold, Dom, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, Sex Toys

Sexy fun in bed lovely kiss everyday morning and go to beach for fun
Straight
Looking for, ages 48-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Age Gap, Age play, ASMR, BBW / BHM, BDSM, Body Hair, Bondage, Bukkake, Crossdress, Cuckold, Curves, Dirty Talk, Discreet Meets, Dom, Edging, Erotic Fiction, Exhibitionism, Feet, Fetish, Group Sex, Lace, Leather / Latex, LGBTQIA+, Lingerie, Mature, MILF, Nylons, Oral, Outdoor Fun, Pegging, Petite, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Games, Sex Talk, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage, Sub, Temperature Play, Threesomes, Tickle Play, Voyeurism, Webcam

Would you like to feel the warmth of my embrace? I love natural beauty and try to emphasize it. I want to hide in a warm blanket in the evening to turn on the film of this brilliant poet. They are filled with true love.
Straight
Looking for, ages 18-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Couples, Discreet Meets, Fetish, Outdoor Fun, Soft Swap, Threesomes

I'm 21 years old, living in the Upper Clapton region.
I'm interested in meeting a woman or a man aged between 18 and 28.
Straight, Straight
Looking for, ages 18-28.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Dom, Threesomes

Wanna find out what a Mistress means then hop on for a ride
Straight
Looking for, ages 40-85.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Sex Talk, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage

I am sweet, easy-going, loving, caring, attentive and almost perfect. I can become everything for my man if we are looking for the same. I know what real feelings are and the most important thing for me at the moment is family. I have a very gentle and romantic nature. I love romantic atmosphere, romantic moments and romantic surprises. They make our life special! I find our world so amazing and interesting, so I would like to see many places that would expand my knowledge. I want to share my interests, the interests of my beloved man, with a person close to me
Straight
Looking for, ages 53-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Curves, Dirty Talk, Sexual Massage

Travelling ,I love travelling and making out, I love making new friends
Straight
Looking for, ages 18-75.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Discreet Meets, Fetish, Group Sex, Sex Talk, Sex Toys, Sub, Threesomes

I came on here to find guys who like fun with older women. I may be 66 but I have not lost any of my sexual urges, in fact I think they are stronger than ever. I prefer younger guys 30-45 but that is not set in stone so if you like my profile, just say hi.
Straight
Looking for, ages 46-76.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests,

I’m new here looking for a serious relationship……..
Straight
Looking for, ages 40-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Bukkake, Couples, Cuckold, Discreet Meets, Fetish, Full Swap, Outdoor Fun, Soft Swap, Threesomes, Webcam

Fun loving couple looking for attractive bi bi-cuious male or bi, bi-curious, female for our first new sexual encounter, curious to try new sexual experiences & adventures. We both like the idea of being watched whilst getting intimate! We also want to find the right Male or female or couple for solo meets..,
Straight, Bicurious
Looking for, ages 18-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Cuckold, Discreet Meets, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Outdoor Fun, Roleplay, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage, Soft Swap, Threesomes, Video themselves

I am only looking for one thing!!
Looking for a SD to spoil me with gifts & surprises.. that way I'll always be a happy girl ❤
Please don't message me unless you are looking for the same thing. This is what I want nothing else.
Always upfront and honest
Don't waste my time, I won't waste yours
I am a delight
Xoxo
Straight
Looking for, ages 18-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Fetish

Am adventurous, crazy and fun to be around. I crave submissiveness.
Straight
Looking for, ages 45-80.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Toys

My main interests include
FinDom
Interracial
Humiliation & Degrading
Strapon fucking
Orgasm denial
Role play
JIO and more
Bisexual
Looking for, ages 18-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Cuckold, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, Sex Toys

Am new on here i will love to find a serious man who's ready to love me for who i'm and to always be there for me no matter what..?
Straight
Looking for, ages 45-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests,

Fetish,Latex, Kinky, Sub/Dom, real people willing to explore to a true dream
Straight
Looking for, ages 40-86.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, Sex Toys

Sensual, confident, and adventurous, I thrive on unforgettable encounters, embracing spontaneity and exploration. With me, every hookup is a tantalizing journey filled with passion, pleasure, and uninhibited excitement.
Straight
Looking for, ages 25-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Cuckold, Erotic Fiction, Lingerie, Outdoor Fun

I am the quintessential mistress who will take you deep into subspace and keep you there always when in MY presence and this Is when you will learn your true purpose in life, for it is to kneel down before me and serve ME. I am hardcore however i do have a dual side which allows me to explore more sexual aspects. Part of my allure is my sincere affinity for what i do and the way i personally connect with each subs.
Straight
Looking for, ages 35-89.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Discreet Meets, Fetish, Threesomes

Nowadays, many women advocate equality with men, but I began to wonder what exactly we get from such relationships. What exactly do we want to feel next to our loved one? Now it seems to me that I was able to find the answer to this question. I want to feel love, feel how they will wait for me from work, worry whether everything is fine in my life and be there for me in any moments of joy and sorrow. In return, what can I give my man? I can show him that even on the darkest days I can light up his day with my smile and optimism, give him confidence that one day there will be a bright streak in his life and that I will be there until this streak comes.
Straight
Looking for, ages 40-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Sexual Massage

I’m down for some fun, so tell me what you got
Straight
Looking for, ages 25-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Age play, BDSM, Cuckold, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Pegging, Roleplay, S&M, Sex Toys, Sub

I am a short, slim, professional, attractive, confident, chatty brunette. I am 40yrs old, like to keep fit and look after myself. I am seeking a sub male to play with, age 25 -49 ish. In terms of my search, our first meet would be in a nice bar, and require a detailed discussion, so that I can fully understand you. Anyone can bark orders - a true D/s relationship has a much deeper level of understanding and connection. I am looking for someone discreet. I am very open to exploring. No interest in sex outdoors. Mutual respect and privacy are extremely important to me. Hoping to find someone for regular meets. I'm open minded and non judgmental. I do not want the lifestyle 24/7, only in the bedroom, behind closed doors.
Straight
Looking for, ages 25-56.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Age play, BDSM, Discreet Meets, Dom, S&M

Want to know more? send me a message, let’s talks about it.
Bisexual
Looking for, ages 22-80.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests,

Are you ready to get dominated by me and I'm ready to leak every each of my body
Straight
Looking for, ages 28-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Anal, ASMR, BBW / BHM, BDSM, Crossdress, Dirty Talk, Erotic Fiction, Exhibitionism, Feet, LGBTQIA+, Oral, Outdoor Fun, Pegging, Roleplay, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage

I'm 29 years old, living in the Birmingham region.
I'm interested in meeting a man aged between 20 and 47.
Straight
Looking for, ages 20-61.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, Anal, BDSM, Dirty Talk, Dom, Erotic Fiction, Fetish, Oral, Outdoor Fun, Pegging, Roleplay, Sex Games, Sex Talk, Sex Toys, Sexual Massage, Voyeurism

Like I have already said.. Confident and passionate woman that thrives for some new adventure.. Looking for a man that knows how to treat a woman right..
Be nice and respectful and you will get a response from me..
Vanessa.
Straight
Looking for, ages 20-90.
A Relationship, Casual Dating, Clubs, Parties & Socials, Friends With Benefits, Hookups, Online, Open to Anything!, Swinging
Interests, BDSM, Discreet Meets, Outdoor Fun

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